Piecing with PATIENCE

[totite]

You are right, I probably won't bring up the schedule part, but he made such an issue of it that is is hard to not say something. But that is what I run through the "will it get you closer to your goal" filter and then end up chucking it.

It is funny but the schedule works for him, because it is based on his needs. I am starting to let him know when I need time to do things so he is starting to consider that now.

In fact, he took kids overnight for first time in a month, so I can get some work done. When I dropped D8 off after hockey practice he said, go home and work on your consulting project...so he did hear me! And I had only mentioned it briefly in an email earlier this week...

My D8 told me that both my S5 and S3 got to H's apartment and told him to pack up and come home - yeah for them. At least they told him and not me - it doesn't do them any good to say it to me because I feel the same way.

Anyway - thanks for your continued support!

[optimist]

Hey, totite

Thanks for your help yesterday. I found a book you might like. I just browsed through the table of contents but you can go to the local bookshop and browse through it more: it is called "The Power of Patience" by Mary Jane Ryan.

It may be worth a look...

[totite]

Thanks for the book idea Opt - sorry I didn't get on here earlier today. I keep sending prayers your way.

Life got hectic as I had a housefull of kids after they got done skating on the rink in the backyard. Yeah! It wasn't too bumpy for them. Had 8 kids skating - aged 10 down to my S3.

Then H took S3 and S5 ice-fishing for the first time. When they got back, they started to watch a movie and I initiated some close contact with my H in the kitchen - which had us sneaking off to the BR .

Needless to say, it was a great message to send away with him. He was going in to the office and had earlier said he was going to go to bed early tonight, but as he left, he said he might come back. I'm beat, so won't be upset if he doesn't.

So, while I have given up the fantasy that he will come back by the 15th, I can only hope that he will get to a point that he will vacate the apartment regardless of how much lease is left.

The post on someone's thread (Deb's I think)about needing to decide a course and stick with it and to be prepared for the devil to try to get in the way of your progress has me thinking.

It has given me even more determination to wait this out. I can be stubborn when I want to be - and I will keep my course and not be disuaded by anyone or anything.

So while I am not big on resolutions:

I resolve to keep on DB until my H comes home and beyond!

Night folks!

[alaskangal]

Totite, I'm so pleased to see what progress you are making. God is working in your life...keep up the miraculous work...you are an inspiration. You make me believe that somewhere out there there's a new relationship waiting for me. Hugs...Akgal.

[Dagny]

Totite,

I love the attitude. Send some of it my way! Keep up the patience part, I think it is doing wonders for you.

Jackie

[alaskangal]

Totite, my H is son's step dad..so son is fine. He actually has said get a d and get it over with...he doesn't like the way H has been treating me. 12 going on 13 and respects and likes women...I did something right there! Thank God.
Thank you for asking though and thanks for stopping by my thread....you are doing great, you keep up the great PMA and know that you are in my prayers and thoughts. Akgal sending big hugs out to you...

[totite]

Hi there night owls!

I posted this to Dagny (Jackie) earlier today and thought I better put it in my own thread as a reminder to myself.

Love your attitude today - positive thinking is powerful isn't it?

You know, I decided a long time ago that I was going to keep the mindset that my H and I will work this out eventually. (Much to the chagrin of my MIL and others who see the glass half empty - not 2/3 full like I do )

If, for some reason, that it doesn't work out, I won't hurt any less - so I'm going for it with everything I've got.

That is what makes being patient easier. I let myself talk in future tense with my H. I plan everything with him in mind as always whether it be household stuff, kid stuff, family activities, whatever...

Now, life isn't perfect (if it were I wouldn't be here - LOL!) and there are moments of uncertainty, sadness and all of those other emotions, but I can deal with them.

Try it - like you said, what have you got to lose? And you have everything to gain.

I find that this attitude keeps me from stressing out, it makes me more natural when H is around, and that keeps him happier too.

You go girl!

Now whenever I need to give myself a pep talk - I can do it!

[psluke]

Hi totite,

I like your pep talk!

[love_endures4ever]

Hi Totite,

I like this, too. My mindset is moving forward with H, but if it doesn't work out I'll still be okay.

Cathy

[imalright]

totite,

I also liked that post. And I was doing the same thing. But now things have changed and I find I'm los and confused and don't know what to do.

I think what you said works, it was working for me, bringing my H closer. So keep it up and you'll see the results you're looking for!

Thanks for dropping by my post, I always enjoy a PMA pick-up!

Deb