The Good Soil Of Love

[Dr LOve]

I feel prepared to deal with this latest crisis. I feel more prepared than ever before. I'm not afraid of D. I would be fine, and would have no trouble finding a dance partner or girlfriend (or so I think).

When I say I want to be consistent with my spiritual beliefs, I mean that every word and action come from a place of love. This is very difficult, but what I'm striving for. I either want a reconciliation or an amicable D.

Ok Cl you are doing well here so far

I'm going to dig my heels in and not backpedal, even when she's emotional, defensive, or irrational. It's going to take my leadership to move us forward. I have this intuition that the time is ripe for us to move forward. If it's going to happen, it's going to be soon. I think we're both close to a place where we can face the issues. We'll see if I'm right.

This is still ok

We've been emailing back and forth today. She was upset that I didn't go out to dinner last night with her. Her lack of empathy is astounding. I sent several emails. Two of them were boundary-setting letting her know that her dance partner and the Saturday night person are not welcome in the home when I'm there. Her dance partner has a long pattern of disrespect, and it's time I let her and he know my opinion about him. I also let my W know my general mental state, and that I am upset.

You lost it here buddy... boundary setting and then saying “letting her know that her dance partner and the Saturday night person are not welcome in the home when I'm there”

CL what is wrong with you? He was NOT just her “dance partner” you should be saying “the AXXhole that was here the other night is not welcome back EVER AND if I ever see him again he will know why..”

You know we go way back and I can really relate to 90 % of what you say but buddy….. I don’t care if your wife was drunk. And the AXX was taking advantage of her. This was totally wrong. Did she even try to apologize?
I do hope that this is the catalyst that gets you going buddy...after something like that and THEN “will go out to her Monday night social group, and dancing afterwards” WTF after something like that happens and then it is business as usual?
I am sorry for this big guy but I hate to see people like you and myself so disrespected. Take time to think and don’t do something irrational but Things cannot be “business as usual” YES we do need to keep the positives in mind but….just because OJ Simpson was a great football player (positive) does not mean we over look he murdered his wife…

Take care buddy.. I wish the PM part of this board worked..you and I really need to talk..

Doc