I got stbx's counter to my counter this weekend, along with the accompanying commentary.
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It seems like you have forgotten the long, hard hours and considerable difficulties I had early in my career when I consistently worked 60-80 hours/wk (plus an hour+ drive each way), all while still finishing my own degree. These long hours and stress combined with a new baby at home affected my health to the point where I got Mono. Through all of this though, I never wavered or even staggered in my support for my family. I continued the extraordinary efforts required to earn more every year, and to consistently improve the quality of life for my family
I guess my role as mother and homemaker can't compare. He's had it so hard... and therefore, entitled to a skewed proportion of the marital property and I should feel grateful. He's also holding my pre-marital student loans, credit card and car loan over my head. That stuff was paid off 20 years ago, and my earnings since then more than paid it back into the family account. I have to ask my atty about that...
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I'm still absorbing most liabilities, including all of your pre-marriage debt (I didn't even list the Yugo or credit card debt). I understand your position that these are irrelevant since you've been working for the last six years and have earned enough to pay off those debts, but that attitude seems one-sided and glosses over how hard I worked to support my family... Your saying that you've earned enough to pay your debt disregards the lifestyle that my hard work allowed you to live before you chose to enter into a career.
(Yes, I drove a Yugo in college... I lost it when I got hit broadside by a GMC pickup (my fault), it's amazing I didn't get hurt worse than I was)
This comes after my conversation with H earlier this week. The highlights: * I wouldn't be asking for the maximum across the board if I wasn't being influenced to do so. * He didn't realize he could counter back- he assumed I was giving him a "take it or leave it" offer. * He asserted that D17 is spending more time at my apartment due to my pushing her so that I could get child support. And he claim's been trying to encourage her to stay more at my place anyways...
He's still not offering any CS in his proposals. And regarding D17, I pointed out that she's still a bit upset with him and may be staying here on account of that. Nope, he had several conversations with her and she's given him "no indication of being upset" about the incident with his friend. OK, enjoy your fantasy-land, stbx...
What I don't get is that I asked for 25% of our tax refund because I earned 25% of our income- and yet he gave me half. Is he trying to make a point?
