No one to my mind is suggesting exposure will in and of itself END an AFFAIR..it DOES change yoru spouse's behaviour and stir up the pot... It brings reality to bear on it and does damage... you have to keep hitting it HARD... one exposure with no follow up won't make much impact no... but it is a proven strategy that does make an impact.
I bet if Pass exposed to his own kids it would stir things up even more...
He wants everyone to think he's an HONEST GUY... she exposes that and HE changes his behavior... it DOES make a difference.
The EXPOSURE isn't enough.. YOU need MORE exposure and follow through to ensure he's being honest... he DOES care about his image..he's made that qutie clear by HIDING the affair.
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I'm telling you, go back and read my old threads. That is NOT always true. I did all that you say and then some. He was done and it did not matter what I or anyone else thought. My XH was in management in his job, he was an extremely proud man. He NEVER EVER admitted to anyone of anything. BUT he did not stop it either. He continued hiding the affair (or at least in his eyes they were hiding, EVERYONE knew) until after I filed for D.
The only thing this did for me an my sitch is cause me far more greif than I needed or deserved. It about drove me crazy trying to get him to own up to what he was doing.
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was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
