MC went badly. We have to work on communicating well or we're never going to get through anything - from coparenting, divorce, reconsiliation, etc....
yet H kept saying it was a waste of time to talk about what we do to "hurt each others feelings" that it is a distraction from "real issues". I held my position that it is not only an important issue and a prerequisite for getting to the bigger issues, that for me it has always been a core issue. And like right now, I have always felt in our marriage that he dismissed the importance of my feelings on this matter - added to the destruction of our marriage and is blocking any improvement in our relationship from now on - either as divorced parents or as reconsiled couple.
MC agreed.
H argued it and called the whole session a waste of time. He wants to control everything, as usual. Yet, when the MC asked what H wanted to talk about, he said nothing.
So there you have it. THe wall. I said what I had to say and if communication goes sour from now on, I can know I tried to make it better.
So next week I'll do what he thinks he wants just dive into the big issues. SEe if what he wants really is what he wants.
