Wow. What an arrogant, self serving prick. Sorry. But he is. I'd let the lawyers handle it. You have tried to do it the adult way, and obviously your stbx wants a pity party. Rub your fingers together showing the worlds smallest violin.
Whew. K.
As for BOB, I don't suppose it could have been mistaken for an incendiary device??
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
ROFLMAO!!! Yes, Gardner, that is EXACTLY what it is supposed to be! KAPOW!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I got stbx's counter to my counter this weekend, along with the accompanying commentary.
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It seems like you have forgotten the long, hard hours and considerable difficulties I had early in my career when I consistently worked 60-80 hours/wk (plus an hour+ drive each way), all while still finishing my own degree. These long hours and stress combined with a new baby at home affected my health to the point where I got Mono. Through all of this though, I never wavered or even staggered in my support for my family. I continued the extraordinary efforts required to earn more every year, and to consistently improve the quality of life for my family
I guess my role as mother and homemaker can't compare. He's had it so hard... and therefore, entitled to a skewed proportion of the marital property and I should feel grateful. He's also holding my pre-marital student loans, credit card and car loan over my head. That stuff was paid off 20 years ago, and my earnings since then more than paid it back into the family account. I have to ask my atty about that...
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I'm still absorbing most liabilities, including all of your pre-marriage debt (I didn't even list the Yugo or credit card debt). I understand your position that these are irrelevant since you've been working for the last six years and have earned enough to pay off those debts, but that attitude seems one-sided and glosses over how hard I worked to support my family... Your saying that you've earned enough to pay your debt disregards the lifestyle that my hard work allowed you to live before you chose to enter into a career.
(Yes, I drove a Yugo in college... I lost it when I got hit broadside by a GMC pickup (my fault), it's amazing I didn't get hurt worse than I was)
This comes after my conversation with H earlier this week. The highlights: * I wouldn't be asking for the maximum across the board if I wasn't being influenced to do so. * He didn't realize he could counter back- he assumed I was giving him a "take it or leave it" offer. * He asserted that D17 is spending more time at my apartment due to my pushing her so that I could get child support. And he claim's been trying to encourage her to stay more at my place anyways...
He's still not offering any CS in his proposals. And regarding D17, I pointed out that she's still a bit upset with him and may be staying here on account of that. Nope, he had several conversations with her and she's given him "no indication of being upset" about the incident with his friend. OK, enjoy your fantasy-land, stbx...
What I don't get is that I asked for 25% of our tax refund because I earned 25% of our income- and yet he gave me half. Is he trying to make a point?
I am important and have suffered so very much. I had to *gasp* work! It's all about me, so anything you did at home counted for nothing. I mean, it was the least you could do since I had to (the horror!) work. I am important, and you are not. I am mentioning your past debt because I really have no other good arguments to make, and maybe this will seem reasonable and manipulate you into doing what I want you to do. It's so annoying that you won't just do what I want. Also, there's no way our daughter could possibly think anything was wrong with me; I could NEVER be responsible for hurting anyone else's feelings BECAUSE I AM THE MOST AWESOME, STUPENDOUS, IMPORTANT MAN IN THE UNIVERSE!!!
Please be a good girl and do what I say because I've run out of ideas to manipulate you.
STBXH (AKA Dillweed)
Dear STBXH,
Suck it up, cupcake. The law is on my side, but if you want to waste your time and money trying to protect your ego, go right ahead. I'll let my lawyers handle it.
Bunny (Free at last, free at last, thank God Almighty I'm free at last!)
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
(((((Bunny))))) I think it's time to just give it to your attorney. No point in arguing.
I mean, how much debt could you have had on a Yugo? Did he have any debt coming into the marriage? And CS for D17 is close to a moot point, anyway, since it would end when she's 18 or graduates from HS in most cases, I think.
He is in fantasy, it's all Bunny's fault, and I can not only blame her, but make her accept the blame, land. He still wants to control.
Here pre-marital assets and debts would be separate, but after 20 years, I think they're probably not really even relevant. Everything else, 50-50, no matter who earned what, who worked, or who didn't work. He is being greedy, and trying to use his twisted logic to get you to agree. Time to just say, sorry, I can't negotiate with you, my attorney will handle it.
