See - there is a reason that we all come here to post the "what ifs" and other questions/comments/sarcasms in our lives.

H came over here last night after working late. He didn't take kids, just spent time playing with them here. My S3 went to tell him good night and said "Pack up and come home".

After kids went to bed, we cuddled and . Then he left around midnight.

Tonight I am going out with college friends and H is coming over to be with kids. He is even leaving the office early to do so - even though this is a busy week for him.

So while I have lots of questions and am "dying to know" what is going on inside his head - I don't ask.

I do have the same question as Deb posted - only I want to know - if H doesn't bring up R at all, isn't that more of the same behavior from him since he didn't talk before?

I know his actions speak loudly (being here a lot, ML all the time, doing acts of service, not taking kids to apartment) but sometime words have to enter in don't they?

My PMA is great today as I am excited to see college friends tonight - they haven't seen me 30# lighter, etc. Then when I get home - my H will be here so who knows???

totite "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."