Dang! I haven't been here for a LONG time! Thanks for the positive thoughts CW smile It's those sorts of comments that help me know that no matter what happens with my H, I will be okay.

My update is this-- H and I have been being together a lot more. I move back in this coming weekend. He is actually saying that he is excited about it and can hardly wait.

Yesterday I was over at 'the other house' (which will be 'our' house again on the 1st-lol) and he said that losing his job was a catalyst but not 'the reason' we are getting back together. He said I make him a better man; we share the same values and want the same things out of life. He is sorry for all the crappy things he's done these past 2.5 years; on the other hand, if it wasn't for these past 2.5 years, maybe we would just be in the same spot as before-with him thinking that maybe he could be happier with someone else. Being separated has made him realize it wasn't me, it was him. And now we can have a fresh start and do things right.

So, I am hopeful...

For a short time my H had had another roommate move in. (A fellow that was recently divorced (not by his choice) and a member of the band.) When my H told him he had to move out, he said he felt really bad because he had told the guy that he could move in and get his feet under him, and now here he was making him move. The guy said he was kinda bummed but also thought it was really important that we try to make our marriage work, so he was fine with moving. I am glad that my H has some friends in his life that are pro-marriage. H is especially glad to see the 25yo move out. -- I guess *that* bro-mance is officially over. LOL

I ordered him a new ring that should be here today or tomorrow. I'm still a little..stunned? that this is really happening. I have been perpetually waiting for the other shoe to fall; expecting that one day he would come over, be distant, I would ask what was wrong and then he would say he changed his mind. But every time we're together he actually seems happier than the time before. In time, I am sure I will come to trust him; for now, I still a fear that he is gonna rip the rug out from underneath me. I'll believe it more once I am moved in and we are settled in a bit.

Thanks again for checking in w/me smile

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing