You are like me, you try to detach and then you get sucked back in. You've been at it a lot longer, though, so maybe will be harder for you to learn to let go?
What do you do when you ARE able to have a good time and focus on yourself? (remember two things - one, when you focus on yourself, you are better able and more available to take care of your kids (think of when you're on a crashing plane and you put the oxygen mask on yourself before putting it on your kids... if you pass out, you can't help them) and two, the girls will see that it's important for them to take care of themselves FIRST and will be happier in their lives/marriages - lead by example)
So, when you are able to be happy FOR YOURSELF - what are you doing? What can you do to be able to DO MORE of that?
Think about it. If it's drawing, do it while at practice with your kids, if it's bubble baths, do it after they're in bed. Whatever it is, find your bliss and make it happen.
