I think you still are hoping for it all to work out, for him to wake up and realize what a jerk he has been. Until you accept that the odds aren't with you on this, you are going to keep caring and being miserable.
I really don't know what caused it and how it happened for me. It just did. I envisioned myself throwing that darn rope as far as the eye could see. I wasn't going to pick it up or look at it again. Sure I have had a couple of slips but for the most part am doing pretty good.
No one can get you there though I really wish I could.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory