Well, the roller coaster ride continues although the highs and lows are somewhat leveling off for now. I have lurked and posted a few other places but haven't written much here.
Believe it or not, we did the Christmas holidays as usual. On Christmas Eve, my H came and drove with us to church and then to my parents. Then he left late and came back early to do Christmas Day here with his mom, sister, aunt and uncle.
Last weekend was his weekend again, but again he didn't take the kids to his place. He spent much of it here. I was sick in bed Saturday with a stomach virus so he actually did 4 hours of volunteer time at a hockey tourney for me. Then when he got back, he let me know he also wasn't feeling well, but hung around until bed time to put kids down and then left.
Sunday he came over briefly and took kids out to lunch, then went home to bed. He also stayed home in bed yesterday.
Last night I invited him to go on a weekend to a resort with us in a few weeks. This morning, after checking his schedule, he called to say it wouldn't work because it is the year-end time at his office and his cousin (our best man) is coming up to go ice-fishing with him.
So I am disappointed naturally and need to not take it personally. But it is hard.
???? There are still unanswered questions in my mind -
Does his lease expire in mid-January and did he renew it or not?
Why isn't he taking the kids to his place any more? (Could he be packing to come home and not want them to see it?)
Tonight he is taking them out for dinner and then to run around but not to his apartment - the kids haven't been there for almost a month...what gives?
The Good Things:
1. Our relationship is not and heavy 2. He is spending alot of time here at home 3. He is doing projects around the house 4. In conversation he talks in the future tense more often than not (he talked with BIL about buying a trailer together - my sister's H)
So gang - you are up to date...it is not any clearer in my book but I still need all the emotional support I can get and I'll continue to provide support and prayers for all of you as well.
Thanks!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
I'm so happy for you! You have my support, always! Sounds like everything is going great!
I wish my H and I was being intimate! I miss that, and it was always great! Until OW, even then it was still good. It was really great after the bomb .
Thanks for dropping by, I miss hearing from you and thesane1 ! Thank God I am strong, I would have never made it this far!
Maybe you should get yahoo IM and join the rest of us in our chats! LOL
Christmas as usual? VERY good sign in my books. It took a LOT afterwards, but when CJ came to my parent's for Christmas last year (3 weeks after the revelation of OW) it was a small sign of "possibility" for me, and a great relief (even if it was really sad at times, not knowing if this would be the LAST holidays we shared).
AS for the moratorium on his apartment...the moving boxes idea sounds as good as any other explanation, but only your H knows for sure.
As for the trip...at least he has a GOOD reason to miss it...and took the time to check etc. He could have flat out refused.
Things are sounding good for you totite, I'm especially impressed (in my sitch as well) when it's unconscious references to a future "we", that come up...I think those speak volumes.
Shiny - you always have great insight. I lurk about your thread, but haven't said anything. Maybe I will stop and just say hi when I have nothing to add.
My H brought up the trip again last night when he took the kids over to MIL for a bit. (He still didn't take them to apartment - hmmmm...) He said he thought he'd have to work late and that his cousin is coming up. I just agreed with him and let him know if his plans change, he is welcome to join us.
Then I mentioned that I had bought some ribs to grill tonight (after all it is 24 degrees out!) and had rented the kids some movies. I said if he didn't have plans, he could come and watch a movie with me. He said he didn't have plans and would see us later.
My H is coming over to spend time with kids on Saturday night because I have a college roommate coming in to town and the girls are getting together. Then Sunday afternoon, we are all getting together with additional folks and it sounds as if he will take them then too.
Not only is that nice for me, but good for him since he was sick so much of last weekend and really didn't spend much time with them.
So the saga continues...
Here are my wishes for 2004:
1. H comes home. 2. H and I continue to rebuild and renew R with each other and our children. 3. All my BB friends have their wishes come true too.
Happy New Year everyone!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
1. H comes home. 2. H and I continue to rebuild and renew R with each other and our children. 3. All my BB friends have their wishes come true too.
I second this. Do you think if we all wished the same thing that the power of all of us would make it come true?! Well, I'm game, I'm wishing the same!
