Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

Yes. Listen to BND. Don't just accept what she's throwing your way.

I've dreaded going to the mailbox since the beginning of February. I've had several days where things were going well ... and then a letter from the lawyer.

I've been next to useless at work as well. Fortunately, I have 13 years in as a stellar performer so they are cutting me a lot of slack.

Do you have any real reason to think the M can be saved? If not, why not have your L propose a settlement conference and just get the damn thing over with? Do you want to spend the next several months sitting in hearings or status calls fighting over every little thing?

I was sitting in court, waiting for the temporary order hearing to start when my L proposed the conference instead. I don't know if it's possible, but I'm hoping to NEVER have to sit in court with STBXW. I just don't think I'd be able to keep it together.