Because I was always paying my expenses and part of the house expenses, I am being more of a wife now and letting him pay more, funny thing is he enjoys it more.
K, this is important. I have found that men like to feel like they can take care of you, be 'the man' and that includes providing fully for their families. IMO, he may have felt like less of a man because you handled your own expenses and paid part of the house expenses too. I understand being independent, paying your own way, but the house expenses are 'family domain' and it's possible that he viewed you taking care of part of that as a lack of confidence in his ability. Good for you in allowing him to handle those things now. It really could be the boost he needed!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Because I was always paying my expenses and part of the house expenses, I am being more of a wife now and letting him pay more, funny thing is he enjoys it more.
Knowing what I now know and if I had to do it again, I'd "man up" and insist that the woman get with it and pay their fair share and adhere to a budget. This way the woman feels more in control, becomes more financially savvy and responsible about spending and the man is under less stress as next month's expenses are more predictable. Taking men for granted as a "provider" or "sugar daddy" is unacceptable in this day and age - I'd run a mile from such women. And God forbid if they D the hardworking man with the stay-at-home Oprah-watching W will be in big trouble. What men need is consistent respect and trust in their leadership. Having said that, K you are to be commended for tightening those "purse strings" and reducing your credit.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
