W still wants separation, need to DB more

[MrBond]

Incidentally, my W also would just say "nothing" when I ask her what's wrong or just "fine" when I asked her how her day was.

So what I learned was to ask questions that required more of an answer. For example, rather than asking "how was your day?" which would just get me a "fine" response; I would ask "so what was something interesting you did at work today?"

Just something like that. After awhile (and it takes awhile) my W started opening up. Now we are actually talking better than we did before.