The OM's wife knows very well about this sitch now. Months ago, she had her head in the sand about it, but has been trying to DB like me for months now. She is using a program called Marriage Fitness. We occasionally talk about about the situation and strategies.

I could expose to more church members and more family members. I'm sure my wife would hit the ceiling. Her mother is ill and already reeling from my wife's sister's separation.

My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.