STBXW now grabs the milk container if she sees me getting a box of cereal for breakfast and walks around the kitchen holding the milk container in her hand so that I can't get it. I said nothing. Put the cereal box back and grabbed a yogurt.FIB
It's true. Now, after four years, I post this just to show that some people really have issues.
Exclusion
As most people know, I have asked the school for separate mailings/copies of events so that I can be in touch with my kid's lives. D6's school teacher has been great with this and sends home sealed envelopes, extra ditto sheets, emails, etc. Yesterday morning, I received an email listing 3 field trips that parents could go on, local, and short.
In the evening, D6 handed me a sealed envelope, in her backpack that was sent home by the teacher. STBXW was doing HW that night. Shortly after, the following texts begin while we are in the house together:
STBXW: I will be attending D6's field trips with her. Already sent back a reply (translated, you can't go)
Me: No problem. Haven't looked at the dates but may go on one if my schedule permits
Me: Hi STBXW, I will look into the two Wednesdays and might attend one or both. Thanks.
STBXW: I am attending.
Me: Didn't say you weren't. We can sit with D6.
STBXW: Two can't go and don't you have a job 2 go to? Deliberately limiting your income is not a good MO. (?huh? a 1 1/2 hour field trip over lunchtime is limiting your income? are their rules about parent's not going?)
Me: Ms. 'Teacher' wrote differently. Thanks. Will try and make one or both. Thanks. FIB
STBXW: I will be on both
Me: Great!!! U can give D6 her medication. I'll let u know in advance what dates work for me. I told D6 I will try and make one. FIB
I wrote this long email out to the teacher including the exclusionary stuff above, then.....I DELETED IT!!!! I rewrote it:
Dear Ms. XXX: I am going to try and attend one or both Wednesday field trips pending my schedule. I haven't made one at all and Wednesdays are my clearest. D6 was very excited. FIB
And there you have it all: -walks around the house holding the milk container in her hand -attempts to exclude me from going on a field trip -uses 'limiting my income', even at this late stage of signing the stipulation as a ruse to keep me from seeing my daughter on a field trip
Yes CTH. We are still under the same roof 4 years post bomb and 2 1/2 years post filing. You can thank the State of NY for that and my desire to be a father to my children and play a part in their lives.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
PS...I had totally forgotten that Sunday was our anniversary, a far cry from 4 years ago. That was the 'last one'. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Frank, you just have got to accept you have an enemy. You are dealing with a crazy mean woman. I am probably more mad than you are now... I wish I could hit her. Seriously. She makes me feel like I feel in movies where the victims are so openly abused and no o ne sees it... you know?
But, as 25yrs mlc would say, soon you will be free. Faank, you made it sane out of this. She cant say the same. Hugs K
Trust me. It's not easy. I think..if I walk away with anything from this, is that I have been able to stay under control.
During this journey, I have met several divorced women who were either cheated on or abandoned by their H's. They push their kids to their XH's. They give them schedules..itineraries....tell them what to buy...what they need...etc. They complain if their XH's aren't giving enough time to their kids.
Me? Excluded. Uninformed. Kids locked in car or left somewhere else if she needs to stop home so that I can't see them. Etc.
Personally, I believe that she will do whatever possible to remove them from me and, as a physician, if I am ever late to get them, she will use every opportunity to file a motion to remove parenting time from me.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Bunny, Gardener, Geronimo....I kid you not. That's the deal.
How would you like to try and go with your daughter on a 1 1/2 hour lunchtime field trip to the local library...and be painted as trying to limit your income?
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
