Full Immersion - Getting Acclimated

[Daybreak]

Was a pretty quiet weekend since the kids weren't here but I did get some cleaning done - which wasn't too much!

Surprisingly, I got an e-mail from my L which forwarded another revision of the SA from W's L. There were a few minor edits (which I OK'ed last week) and mention of the safe deposit box (which I had forgotten about so I need to get my stuff out of there later this week). Then at the bottom, there was this:

L - we should discuss the no overnight guests provision. W has been in agreement with that provision, and I believe still is, to a certain extend. She notes that the parties have lived apart for quite a substantial period of time without that provision, and each has honored that intent by the other. She believes that neither party is in a rush to finalize a divorce and that they may in fact continue to be married but separate. And that they will have new relationships. Do you have proposed language to meet that situation?

So now either I am a bit confused by this or W's L is. I replied back to my L saying that I needed to think this through. I have been on this path for over 8 years now with the emotional sep and 7 months since W moved out. W has made it quite clear on a number of occasions that reconciliation is impossible and frankly I don't want to deal with the "married but separate" facade. So my L responded back with some language for me to review that would carry over once the D is final - something which I do not think is fair for anybody.

Unfortunately (or maybe fortunately) my Monday and Tuesday nights are pretty hectic so I can mull this through and get some alternate opinions on this...