Do not get your hopes up and keep doing what you are doing, but... looks very promising! If you were not married to the guy, just dating him, and he were doing all those things, how would you feel?
I do think he is testing the waters... but you are going to be careful... do not do anything to make him run away... and keep giving him space.
Do not be surprised if he walks in one day and just stays, no fanfarre involved.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
I think the biggest challenge besides the PATIENCE now will be not appearing over eager with all this.
I am bursting inside and it's great to know that I can come here when I need to let go. I can't afford to tell anyone else at this point - you are sooooo right, just play it out...still.
YAHOOOOOOOO! Where is CHL with an appropriate song when I need one? Or maybe I should tap into JamesJohn since he has been here too.
Just keep me sane gals. That's all I ask right now.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Just went back a few posts and I think you are doing FANTASTIC as is your H. I see nothing but good here.
It lifted my spirits a little, THIS is the way it SHOULD happen.... Patience, take it one day at a time, do not think too far ahead. This is what gets me in trouble.
Quote: YAHOOOOOOOO! Where is CHL with an appropriate song when I need one?
How about.....
Quote:
Artist: Kenny Chesney Song: Love Me Tonight
Well I've been lonesome I've been empty I've got an aching Way deep down inside And I need someone, someone to hold me Pull down the shades, turn out the light And love me tonight
Don't think about tomorrow It don't matter anymore We can turn the key And lock the world outside the door I need you so now Come on, let go now Kick off your shoes, turn out the light And love me tonight
Well don't you worry We're all alone now So let your hair down Come sit by my side And turn off the TV Put on some music Pull down the shade, turn out the light And love me tonight
Don't think about tomorrow It don't matter anymore We can turn the key And lock the world outside the door I need you so now Come on, let go now Kick off your shoes, turn out the light And love me tonight
I need you so now Come on let go now Pull down the shades, turn out the light And love me tonight
{{{{{HUGS}}}}} go to you, this is all so positive! I'm so happy for you! Slow and easy seems to be the best way to go! I was so glad to read your thread this morning, helped me work out issues in my head about my sitch! So TY for posting the great things that are happening with your H. No expectations, take it slow and easy!
This is great. I think the others are right in their advice, don't push him away, no R talks! No questions about where this is leading, let him set the tone and go with the flow. Yeah. Act naturally when he starts bringing clothes over for the next day and begins leaving stuff. Patience. You've made it this far.....
Thanks CHL for the song! It's a wonder that you can do that for any occasion.
I've been trying to get going on the Christmas shopping and cards the past few days. Plus I have been catching up on some other threads so I haven't been on my own. Maybe that is a good thing huh?
My H has been around quite a bit. He told me it was okay to sign all of our names to the card but I am skipping the little update note I usually put in it.
H took the kids Christmas shopping last night. He asked me to tell them what I wanted - I told him that you know what I want (him home) and he said "I know that, but you need to let them know what they can buy you."
So I made a short list and on the back wrote "YOU". Then I headed out to do some shopping alone - yeah! Still have alot to do though.
We shall see what the next few days bring.
Let's all help each other keep up the PMA! I am praying extra these days so that I can cover all my friends here on the BB!
Have a great day!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
If you were not married to the guy, just dating him, and he were doing all those things, how would you feel?
