She should also expect that cutting the emotional need strings between her and him will hurt, regardless of who does it or how.
Of course cutting emotional ties with your spouse hurts. I don't think anybody would disagree. Luv cutting emotional ties with him was a direct result of his multiple affairs and his stated lack of desire to (A) stop the affairs and (B) consider working on the marriage. In addition, Mr. Luv has been very nasty to his children for the past few months and went as far as to tell one of them he no longer cared about her (her = daughter). Mr. Luv went out to play basketball for NINE hours then came home and cruelly threw his "dirty clothes" in Luv's laundry pile that were covered in women's makeup. As I said, I understand sometimes we make comments based off the facts that are presented but as you know, sometimes for certain reasons the poster doesn't post all the facts for personal reasons.
The emotional side of a potential divorce does not give one party the right to abuse or withhold finances just because they are pissed off. For close to two decades Mr. Luv has been the primary breadwinner and CHOSE to support his wife and three children. If Mr. Luv is mad, upset or anything else that is fine and certainly something that could be addressed but cutting off your family and leaving them without a dime for food is not appropriate (and against the law). The emotional reaction one spouse may have should have nothing to do with obligations they have chosen to take on for two decades.
If Luv or one of her children got sick or hurt today or in the coming days she would be sh*t out luck. Once her gas tank is empty she no longer has transportation. Monthly bills are coming up in a few days. And when you examine it all, due to banking policy and procedures, this was planned at least 3 weeks ago all w/o a peep to Luv.
So, no, nobody should expect to be hurt in a way that involves not being able to eat or have a roof over their head without the proper litigation to determine who will be responsible for what.
There is an emotional process when a couple splits but there also is a legal process and one can't bypass the legal process just to be an a-hole. Well, they can but they will be reprimanded and that is exactly what Mr. Luv can expect.
