Thanks you for that. Sometimes you need others perspectives to break you out of a rut.
"Attractive man"...wonder what that means lol. Different women would say different things about this. There's a fine line between being independent and happy and being attractive to your existing spouse. I can't say that changing myself to be attractive to my spouse now isn't in fact doing more of what she wants and not me. I've lived this way for so long and bent over so much for her i don't know what she wants. Maybe she wants a beer swilling, lazy arse-do-nothing, stay out every night with the guys, weekend golf playing, womanizing, verbal loud mounthed jerk off. Hey, i haven' tried those things yet! Maybe i should give it a go!
Sorry for that. I know you're all just trying to help.
