The man has had an entire year away from me and instead of doing any introspection he apparently has been logging my actions against his apparent checklist... Blah.
Why would he do any introspection when he can continue to just blame you for everything - his unhappiness, his failures in life, etc. He's not grown-up enough to own any of this - much easier for him to just project all the fault on you.
I wouldn't ask him anymore about arranging to do this talk - I'd just do it. He'll find a zillion reasons why it can't be when you want it to be. If you are going to communicate anything with him I'd make it something to the effect of "I'm talking the kids about this tonight at Xp.m. If you want to do this together then be here at that time." End of story.
I know it's no picnic to have to be like that, it's so much better to coparent as a coordinated team with responsible adult - unfortunately you don't have that with him right now. Hopefully he pulls his head out of his a** in the future and learns to act like a grown-up.
