And another question: WS keeps suggesting there were issues in our marriage that, when she began to have feelings for OM, made her question our marriage even more. Is this her way of not taking responsibility? Should I bother even addressing this with her now, given the situation? Thanks.
This is typical wayward "script." It's called "re-writing of marital history," and it's common in nearly 100% of affairs. It's a justification/rationalization thing.
Puppy
Quote from Phil McGraw :
It is unfair to compare a new, exciting, taboo fantasy relationship to one you've been in for years where there are kids, bills to pay, a house to run and noses to wipe. That is a ridiculous comparison.
You mostly need to understand that your wife is ADDICTED and as a result is NOT THINKING RATIONALLY.
IGNORE her BS... she has no idea how to think clearly right now and her decisions are driven by addiction/excitement... not by logic.
It's BS... You won't be able to convince her of that right now...
But you CAN use this to confirm that YOU are NOT crazy.
You COULD try to explain this to her friend who supports this nonsense.. Her FRIEND is NOT addicted, she's just an idiot...
