i got the "two people can love each other very much but that doesn't mean they have a healthy marriage" speech.
I got that speech,too -- from my IC. She said that I would have to evaluate if the R is healthy based on our M dynamic.
I responded that I would when I was sure that I really had tried and given both of us time to improve. Then, my W re-engaged that dynamic by telling me she was going to need months of sleeping with the kids instead of me. While she has backed down, I have not yet and I am living partly separated.
The emotions tear the heart, don't they? But, after the cry, get back up. He's angry and saying things to get things the way he thinks would be most fair, not most kind.
