WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

"I thought you told her no spending time with the OM with the kids. Did you ever enforce that boundary? Did the church ever confront her like they said they would?"

I am having trouble with enforcing boundaries, too.

I don't know, man, hang in there as long as you can. Like you said, we will know when enough is enough. I am getting very close to that place. It won't mean it's over, just that detachment is complete and we are okay with whatever the outcome. I never thought I would get there. I never thought I would accept a lot of things. We grow, learn and accept that we can't change THEM, only our selves.

BTW, on a subject close to my heart, how are the kids? I hope they are well. As well as can be expected, anyway. I really do hope and pray for you and your kids.

I'm pretty close to "enough is enough". It's been 13 months now without any change at all in her relationship with OM. I don't like her and can't see being married to her given the way she is now. If she was my girlfriend, I would be 100% certain I was dumping her. Her two best friends (well, at least until they found out about her affair) in town told me to "dump her and take her to the cleaners".

It really would take a miracle for us to reconcile. And while I continue to pray for that miracle, I also accept that God is with me no matter what happens and He is happy with the effort I've made to hang in there.

The kids are doing great; no perceptible effects on them at all. They still think it is a novelty switching back and forth between parents. That may change if divorce becomes a reality and they realize that the switching will be permanent.

Thanks for your prayers as well IDU, sending some back your way.