At first things started out pretty well considering, we woke up next to each other in the same bed. Somehow our dog ended up in the bed. My W nudged me, smiled and pointed to the dog to show me how she was laying.
My W gets up goes downstairs to eat breakfast, I follow shortly after and we watch some TV together. We both laugh here and there and catch eyes a couple times while doing so.
We had planned to got out and shop around for something to wear to my friends wedding next weekend. My W got ready and in the process she started to shift her attitude. All of a sudden she became distant and VERY withdrawn and bitter. I just carried on overlooking the negativity and tried to remain positive.
So we leave and arrive at our destination (the mall) and soon as we walked in she started again. In the past when we would walk in public places I normally lead the way. Those days are over, I want to walk equal. Since we were there for my W, I thought it would be best she lead the way since she knows what she was looking for. At one point she stopped and said "Don't wait for me to go ahead, it never happened before, just go where you got to go" I replied "But we are here for you" which made no sense to her...So I walked and she followed even though I had no clue where to go or what SHE WANTED to look at. We walked around. My W was not happy with what she saw so we both decided we would go to another mall. W still being very distant and had a terrible attitude and I am not sure what set her off.
I had to stop at a vitamin shop my W choose to stay in the car. I said "I thought you wanted to get those vitamins" and I thought she said "forget them." So I go in and come out with my stuff and my W says with a nasty attitude "You couldn't get my stuff?" I said "I thought you said forget them" she told me she said "you can get them." I apologized for the mix in communication and offered to go back in to get them, as I was exiting the vehicle she said "if you go back in there I will leave you." So I sat back in the seat and pulled off. I tried to clear up the matter and she said "it doesn't matter" and so I said "If it does not matter why are you acting like this" and her reply was "whatever." then she changed her mind and just wanted to go home and so I complied and drove home...a very silent drive home it was but I tried to remain up beat.
In that time I thought, she is taking me on a roller coaster ride. I let her take me up but on the way back down I decided I would get off and not go for the ride. I just became a spectator remaining calm as can be and tried to inject a positive attitude.
When we got home our dog left a mess for us, it put her in a worse mood but I cleaned up the mess. My W was cooking her self something to eat in the microwave, when it was finished, I pulled it and walked it out to her. I thought if I too had a negative attitude is will only complicate things further so I just acted "as if" and hopefully it made her think. It was also good for me too because I did not let her push the buttons she thought she could push...I reprogrammed my buttons and threw her a curve ball.
As of right now, she is down stairs watching TV and I am up stairs relaxing and giving her some space.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
