Hi all. Boy did I need you guys on TG, but I wasn't near a computer. In the end everything worked out so yeah for Dbing even when not near the BB!

On TG, it got to be noon and my kids and I were leaving for my sister's house. We hadn't heard anything from H so I could only assume that he wasn't going. D8 called him to wish him HTG. He said that he was sick and wasn't coming. Then he asked to speak to me.

My lack of response on the phone let him know that I was angry that he hadn't called (he said he had just woken up) and that he wasn't going due to illness (didn't believe him at first). I told him it was rude to not respond to an invitation. He said he didn't recall being invited. I said that we had discussed it at least twice and that I had specifically told my sister that she didn't have to call and invite him because I would do it. So hung up very upset and negative. Shed some tears, got in truck and drove to MIL to pick up some buns to take with. Felt unresolved, so called H again to ask him to call sister and let her know he wasn't coming. Told him I wasn't going to apologize for being angry and disappointed, but that he couldn't pass off his behavior on to me. Then got back into truck and gave phone to s3 and s5 to say HTG. When we arrived, my sister told me that H called to say he wasn't coming and that he sounded awful on the phone and was going back to bed.

So you may think it wasn't good DBing, however, I usually would have avoided his avoidance, so even this mild display of anger and disappointment was a 180. It let him know he can't get away with that type of behavior and thoughtlessness. (which, BTW, is out of character for my H, but not for the alien inside him now though)

After a pleasant TG dinner and a movie, my cell phone rang that evening. It was H calling to say goodnight to kids as he knew it would be a late evening and they would fall asleep on drive home. I then asked him what leftovers he wanted us to bring him. It was a pleasant conversation and he said he was feeling better.

Later, I am fast asleep when phone rings at almost midnight. It was H calling to see what I was doing. He hadn't looked at clock right so didn't know it was so late. He apologized and said for me to go back to sleep.

Friday, he worked part of day and then came over to move the outlet displaced when I knocked the wall down. He was very frisky and we ended up meeting downstairs in the laundry room while s3 was upstairs. Then later on again, , while kids were around. So I guess my anger at TG was forgotten by him - I know that I certainly did.

H had kids this weekend so I ripped up the carpeting and padding and tack strips and staples in the living and dining rooms. I was working on it when he brought them home yesterday. Without saying a word, he started to help me. Then he measured for the new sliding glass door that he is going to install. Now I have to go up and finish the hallway and stairs. Then I can measure for my new flooring. Hope to get it in this week still. It remains to be seen if we install it or pay for Home Depot to do it. Whatever!

So the roller coaster continues. I was at his place three times this weekend picking up and dropping off kids for various activities. On first visit, saw a notice from management company reminding him that it is time to consider if he is renewing his lease or not. Of course, I hope it's a not. On Sunday visit, notice wasn't there any more. Hope he ripped it up!

Well, need to go rip some more! Boy does my body ache from this one! What a workout....

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