As a matter of fact I had stumbled upon some letter adn their drafts to (x)W from various stages of when the A started and up til the first holidays.
What you W is saying about your 'emotional needs', I get the impression that perhaps, just perhaps you've been on the needy side for some time and not presenting yourself as a strong person?
If so, work on that. I was there and it is not very attractive. Other than being the fabled exact opposite of me, that's all I can see that she saw in quality with OM. Over the eyars I became a "yes dear" to not rock the boat, "wussy" like I think I've already said here. Now, I'm just assertive, I say what's on my mind, not being an a-hole or anything, but I can tell that is huge to (x)W.
That's good that your W went to the session. Right now she says "she believes change is not possible". Show her differently in yourself.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
