CL, I am happy to read the last sentence, more presence is crucial for your well being whatever the outcome.
You need to respect,value and like yourself enough to be able to (maybe demand is too strong a word for you) but at least expect to be treated in the same fashion. Also to know that whatever happens you will be fine and go on to lead a rich and fulfilling life, life is never stress free but it doesn't have to feel like every day is an uphill struggle full of angst.
I know my m ended in D but I can honestly say that for most of our shared life tog, well over 40 years from teen years I was happy and felt loved and cherished. I am truly grateful for that and feel blessed to have had that life.
I am glad you spoke the words to her in person first. Life does not have to be so hard,it isn't meant to be. Your partner should be there for you, loving and supporting you,enriching your life as you do for them. Yes it has ups and downs but far more ups than downs. Sometimes we have to find an inner strength we never thought we had to overcome obstacles whether they be real or imagined-fear of the unknown or change can be crippling, but not as much as a life long habit of keeping the peace or sweeping things under the preverbial rug.
I know my dog is an excellent judge of character he loves me,as yours does you,so I know you can find that inner strength. I believe that God wants us to shine for him,to reflect his glory in both the big and small things we do each day. To stand up and be counted on ocassions. " For evil to prosper,it takes the good to do nothing" I hope the reply is what you need to hear and are followed by actions.
