You're asking the wrong guy. I DON'T handle rejection well, and eventually I just stop initiating altogether.
I will say this though: although I understand your point, and can empathize with it, you probably at some point should say it to her more like:
"I'm sorry for the 'prostitute' implication the other night, but when you are only in the mood to make love when we are doing well financially, it makes me feel like I'm nothing to you other than a breadwinner."
Were you guys always mismatched libidos? Has she always been low-drive?
