Haha...Deep.... thank you for that noble greeting! Good to see you on my thread. It was good to get an update from you, and I hope you will keep me in the loop. It helps to know I am not alone in some of my struggles and to see how you are managing them being that much farther ahead in your process...
So things are going well so far now that H is home. He has been very affectionate. We had a good conversation last night in which he told me OW is getting "smaller and smaller in the rear view mirror" and that he wishes he could do anything to be able to take away what I had to go through in the past year.
I am working on a balance of validating, meeting his LL etc. with also doing some subtle withdrawing and being less available. I believe this is important to create a new, healthier balance in our R. I have always been available, accomodating, supportive, understanding blah blah blah. Now, it is time for him to do some of the pursuing, some of the work. This will set the stage for my boundary setting. Some of that is already happening with actions and with words, and some of it I am working towards. I am feeling confident about this.
Ruling my domain is very time consuming ya know... so I better get back to it...
Good to see you on my thread. It was good to get an update from you, and I hope you will keep me in the loop. It helps to know I am not alone in some of my struggles and to see how you are managing them being that much farther ahead in your process...
We had a good conversation last night in which he told me OW is getting "smaller and smaller in the rear view mirror" and that he wishes he could do anything to be able to take away what I had to go through in the past year.
