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[TrentC]

Getting past feeling like a victim is very important. Let's face it, we're all victims to some degree or other.

The article I linked to is very interesting:

Victim identity locks the parties into a reactive narcissism that prevents them from seeing their partners apart from their emotional reactions to them. When I feel good, I put you on a pedestal; when I feel bad, you're inadequate or abusive.
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Victim identity not only worsens abusive relationships, it keeps people stuck in them: "The only way I can feel okay is if you get over your self-obsession and make me okay."