Hi Cathy and all! A pitcher huh? Sounds good.

Well, like I mentioned, H did come over after kids went to bed on Tuesday. We spent some quality time cuddling and then .

Wednesday morning I had appointments lined up for the consulting gig and then a dental appt - so I didn't get home until 1. Called H and let him know I was home until 3:30 and that I had gone shopping as he suggested when he called Monday when he called to tell me he had taken Wednesday off from work.

Well, I dozed off (had only about 4 hours of sleep) and woke up to hear H on deck. I let him in. He had been in back shed putting away lawn mower and bringing out snow blower for me. I told him that I was resting as I had a headache and my novacaine was wearing off. (I am sure this reinforced his image of me with bon bons and soaps while the kids are at day care but I was exhausted and didn't know he was there!)

I asked if he had gotten my message and he claimed that he hadn't. He left saying that he had some more winterizing to do at my MIL. I mentioned that if he wanted to stop back the kids and I would like to see him since he had been gone.

Later, the kids called for their goodnights and he was at some friends new home. He said he'd see about stopping by - and didn't. I didn't wait up as I was still tired.

He is due here shortly to pick up the kids for the evening. We'll see how it goes. I am not sure how to read our sitch so I am continuing to be positive, lovingly detached and acting AS IF.

One interesting topic that hasn't been addressed is that his benefits information is due tomorrow. I am carried on it and we use pre-tax accounts for our child care. I have asked him if we can talk about how we might do the benefits for next year because we have talked about taking the kids out of child care to save the money since I am at home. My folks and MIL will watch the kids if I have meetings for my consulting gigs. So it remains to be seen what he is thinking in this area.

But for now...PATIENCE, PATIENCE, PATIENCE remains the name of the game.

Wish me luck!

totite "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."