One other note. It may serve you well to be specific about the things you want to work on when you tell your husband. Like saying "I know I have controlling tendencies but I want to change that." This will give him a clearer picture of what you are owning. A blanket statement of "I know I have things I need to work on" are too vague.

Wouldn't you want him to be specific of the things he realizes he did 'wrong' (I use that word lightly) to damage the M?

MySitch
Me-47
STBXW-41
D-5
S-8
ILYBNILWY-01/08
Want a D- 01/09
Physical Sep-01/10
D filed-06/10
Got 50% custody=09/11
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