Thank you for popping over to my thread. After I read your reply, I came over to see you as you had said that you was fortunate you had no OW to contend with.
This struck a cord with me as although my H did have A it was over before H and I seperated. OW has been totally out the picture for a long time and I do beleive when you have no OP in the picture it is a big percentage difference at breaking down the walls.
So, I read through your threads, I cant beleive I have missed you, your sitch reminds me of mine in lots of ways.
My H and I also had two differnt relationships going at one time we did intimate things whith out the kids knowing and the just spent quality time together in front of the kids and I think I know the reason for this is, they are so confused, they want to come back.. they think... but they need to be 100% sure before they let the kids know because they dont want to hurt them.
I used to feel like my H was having his cake and eating it, he had his single life, and me when he wanted me, and that is hard, But be very patient, dont let those feelings take you astray, the time will come when you can sort that out ( as you know I did ) But before you do make sure His feet are firmly on the ground.
Keep doing what you are doing I really think you can do this, But you must have PATIENCE.
That is the most important thing on the list .. PATIENCE.
I led my H to beleive that I was content with the way things were, almost as if I wasn't sure about the R too, evrytime he indicated he was worried about getting back together, I would say stuff like, yes I am too, I dont want to go back to what we had.
) But before you do make sure His feet are firmly on the ground.
I really think you can do this, But you must have PATIENCE.
