Possible EA - Need Advice

[newmama]

First- AWESOME JOB!!!!! Second, I didn't see anything about if she contacts him on your list.
I would want my H to tell me every time that OW attempted to contact (because the OP will fish, believe me). I would explain that I expect that she will contact him and I won't hold it against him so to speak if he tells me every time.

Then leave the message so I can check it if I want.

Now also think about the fact that he is terrified now that you will follow through on the steps. he doesn't want to mess up!

You can even talk to him about a plan-develop one together-for how to respond if she contacts him. That way you are still in charge but also he has to do some of this problem solving work too- it shouldn't be ALL your responsibility!!!