Hi CL, I am trying really hard to see the positives and your pov. How can you contemplate intimacy with a woman who sleeps around, I really don,t see email comunication as away to move f/ward on this issue(jmo from a female pov) Yes you told the man to leave, he may be lacking in moral character BUT your wife was also,it takes two as they say to tango. BUT then you let her throw you out of your bedroom ?? I truly think that was wrong,she should have been the one to sleep elsewhere after her behaviour. I really feel your wife is goading you to stand up and act like her husband. I do not advocate violence but certainly some strong words and firm action. You are 50 years old and could find a dance partner anywhere. You either stay in a loveless marriage, knowing that your wife will be finding love elsewhere or under your nose and roof and decide thats fine by you and thereby remain her husband in name only but fullfilling your spiritual beliefs.To do this you have to give up any thought that life will change. OR you issue an ultimatum and stick to it, preferably face to face and not via an email. You talk of history, did you ever have a happy marriage that you both felt fullfilled in and in love with each other or has it always been strained and one of you trying to please the other more than a partnership? If yes then can you pinpoit a time or event that made it all go pearshaped, a history of depression,loss of a child, financial difficulties, any reason that maybe needs to be revisited and put right. I hope you got the answer to your email. I think you need to find some righteous anger but then thats just me and I am a passionate person and honesty is what matters to me most of all. Take care.
