I am trying as hard as possible to be the better person in this situation even though my wife is entangled in this affair
How do you mean this? I know what the statement means,but how do "you" mean that you are trying to be the better person?
My question is "how can you be the better person", when over time they WAS is addicted to cheating on you? It doesn't matter who it is, usually there will be someone else. There may have been resentments that where building, and in some cases issues of "entitlement". Once they have gotten used to cheating you, its hard to get back to a respect and love viewpoint.
