Well, HoldingOn, kick back and listen to this story - back at the beginning of October I was offered a job with our school district. I asked my H to come over and look at the offer with me before I decided anything. He said it was my decision. I countered with the fact that it was a financial decision and that we have always made those together. So he agreed to come over later that night.
He dropped the kids off and left saying he would stop back later. In the meantime he went over to a friends house and had a couple of beverages. He came back after the kids were in bed. He came in and sat on the couch next to me (which isn't normal for him) and I pulled out a notebook on which I had done some math about the job offer.
It turned out that the job was an hourly position with no benefits. Our kids are in child care 2 days a week and I would have to pick up another day to do the job, but I would have school breaks and the summer off. However, it would have cost us more for child care than I would bring home.
In addition, I had just successfully written a grant for a coalition that I belong to and they wanted to pay me to do two short-term projects. I would make almost 3x the salary of the school job doing these two gigs. He said "You are worth more than they are offering. You need to be paid what you are worth and get benefits too. Turn down the job".
Then he went into the kitchen looking for a snack. I followed him and we ended up talking R. He said that he almost didn't come over. I asked why and he said it was hard to come over because he was afraid of what he would do.
I told him that I didn't think we should ignore the good parts of our R while working on the not so good parts. He admitted that he missed the kids and our home and even me sometimes. This was a huge breakthrough. I told him it was all part of a sinister plot on my part - LOL. I also told him that I wouldn't pressure him and tell him that ILY all the time - and I haven't.
Needless to say, I gave him a big hug and we ended up getting intimate. Then, the following Wednesday, he had a rough event occur at work, and called me to come over late again (it's on my thread). We talked for two hours about it and he stayed a little longer ...
So, since then, he and I have been getting together for late night alone time at least 2-3 nights a week. I joke on here that we are having an EA with ourselves - and we are. It's not just about either, although that has been fun, it is about cuddling, watching movies, talking in general terms not R...
So, now that he has been gone since Friday, it's no wonder that I am excited that he called this morning and that he has suggested what we might do on Wednesday while the kids are at day care and school.
Now I have to see if I can make it to the lingerie store before my meeting this afternoon.
Good luck HoldingOn - stop by any time. I am hoping to be the next to post that my H is coming home - my PMA is high and that is what counts!
Opt - thanks for the visit. I hope you can go home early, take a few Motrin and get some rest and plenty of fluids! Take care of yourself!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
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