Thanks, Saffie. Got lots to think about there. I'll print and re-read later. I guess I just post here b/c I will miss the people. Point taken, I'll switch.
No, you are missing my point. I am not saying you should switch at all; you must post where you feel happy. I am trying to say you are confused and all over the place. As far as I can tell, you never get to pursue one course of action long enough to see if it works.....apart from exposing, ( which genereally I am in favour of). Exposing didn't work as far as I can see because your H doesn't care - he wants people to think you and he are over. To my mind then, the only way to win him back......or keep your self respect, is to show others by your actions, that you are not the monster he portrays you to be.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
