Reconnecting - Do they know?

[old theotherhalf]

I think the LBS gets to a point when they see reconnection taking place and becomes scared to actually believe this is what is taking place as they have been 'slam dunked' so many times before.

With good reason it seems...
My XH called me last weekend (left VM's because I did not answer). Heard through the grape vine that he had ended it with OW 1 week prior.
He was crying and drunk. First call was to say he needed to talk to me. Second call was to say he missed me so much and that he needed me to tell him it would all be okay, for me to please call him back. I didn't, at least not then.
I called his sister because I was worried about him. Then I left him a voice mail the next day. I told him that I missed him every second of every day but like he he says it's time to move on. And I guess that's just something that he is going to have to learn to live with. And I cannot tell him it will be okay because I don't believe that it will ever be okay like this.
Next night he sent me a TM told me thank you for my support. I told him that He don't need me, never has, he's made that perfectly clear. He said he was serious. I told him to just take care of himself and know that I will always love him. H then TM back saying that he just wanted to fall asleep holding me in his arms. I did not respond.

I've heard nothing from him since. I heard that he spent the night with OW Sat. night. SURPRISE! I text him yesterday to ask him if he was taking OW to Cousins wedding next weekend. I want to go, but the restraining order says I cannot if she goes. He did not answer me.

Sorry to highjack this thread but I have to say D or not. A year passed or not. All of the changes or not. New R or not. His calls and TM last weekend have really pulled at my heart strings and drug me back down into the tunnel. I had made myself believe that I was doing just fine. That I had moved on and up. That I would not go back to EX for nothing. Then in an instant I'm a mess. I still love and miss this man like crazy. Even after all that has happened. If only....If only he was scincere... If only he was through MLC. If only OW ws truly gone.
So I guess I am seeing that there is a real reason for the LBS to be afraid. Because they can and will still hurt us..

This waas huge for me because I have heard nothing from him for over 6 months. Out of the blue he called me one day at work and left a VM ( a few weeks back). Telling me to call him. Then later I got a text saying "sorry, never mind" I called anyway and got his VM. Then nothing. Later that night I was not home and D18 caught him coming off of our street. He then turned around and came here and sat with her for over an hour. I was pretty suspicious as to why he was here. And kind of ticked that he was at my house without me here. Wondering what the heck he was up to. But I left it alone. Glad that he made an effort to spend time with D18 even if he was up to something different. I then let it go and thought nothing more about it. Now this.

So.... is he trying to reconnect?... or just still spinning in his sh*t?... No one knows. But it sure has thrown me for a loop and made me see things that I couldn't see before. I just have to find my feet again. thanks all for listening and could sure use some insight or advise.
Luv, TOH