Well here I am now. Moved over from DBD

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g450,

You guys are right. Im throwing the letter in the trash when I get home. Thanks.

Good

I have always tried to be the better person, the understanding one that knows she is ill.

which a WAW/MLC/wife with OM, etc., views as weakness, not goodness.

I remember she warned me not to call or say anything to her family (=guilty conscious=PA, imo). Im above that of course but how dare she insinuate I would do that in the first place.

Tell everybody. And if you get proof of PA, expose, expose,. expose.

Sadly, I still love the woman

Give this some serious thought. and reflection, g450. Do you love the person she's become, the person she is now?
If you're honest with yourself, you'll probably discover that - like most of us here - you love a memory. The memory of a person who no longer exists.

Good luck.