Just found out she already filed

[ClingingToHope]

So this morning I lied awake thinking of all the things I want to tell her and how to say it like "well I've been thinking about our R and I've decided I don't want to be with someone who doesn't appreciate me. I'm a great catch (so is she, many guys would be willing to be with her) despite my flaws (we all have those) but I'm not a lying, cheating, betrayer. I'm a great dad and wanted to be a great partner to you and for that reason one day I'll be able to look back and be OK knowing I did what I could've."

You know what. Keep all of this to yourself. I've spent way too much time trying to steer conversations or wait for the opportunity to jump in to make points like the ones above.

It didn't get me anywhere, in fact it most likely made things worse.

She's thought long and hard about this, most likely, and a speech isn't going to change anything.