Saving a relationship that maybe cannot be saved

[james217]

Im in Ky

http://chfs.ky.gov/dcbs/dpp/childsafety.htm

start reading and learning.

You are going to need a lawyer. I will tell you this everything you say to cps goes on record.

Right now it will be hard for either one of you to get your D back. It's not something you can just go talk to them about and resolve.

http://chfs.ky.gov/dcbs/dpp/faqchildabuse.htm#5

5. Can a social worker just take a child out of the home?
No. Only the police have that authority if they feel that a child is in imminent danger. A judge can issue an emergency custody order (ECO) for a child to be picked up and held for 72 hours before a hearing. KRS 620.040(3)(b) allows a hospital administrator or a physician treating a child to hold that child without a court order but they must request an ECO within 72 hours.

you and your W had two seperate violent incidents how many days apart? they probably have the hospital records for the two nurse maids elbow.

The police probably reported the two violent encounters to CPS.

but here is this

8. What happens to children who are being abused if it is reported?
Reports of child abuse will be investigated by DCBS. If substantiated, children may be removed from the home and placed in foster care until their family situation can be evaluated and/or corrected. Treatment services are provided, which may make it possible for children to remain in the home.

that's what I'm talking about. you're going to have to do these services. You need to find out if you can get legal aide or a public defender if you cannot afford an attorney

http://www.kylawhelp.org/

Now they are saying you will probably have to split up due to the violence in the home. Yep that’s why they are saying divorce. You need a lawyer as soon as possible man. You are going to be in a for long long haul man. You’re going to have to do these services. Ask them for them. If you get your own I.C. or M.C. , they are going to want you to use the doctors, counselors, and therapists they select.

You may get monitored visits. But the second violent encounter really really messed things up dude. The way they feel, if you’re fighting like that with each other and the child is in the middle then that’s a very unhealthy environment for a child. They feel that if you two are not together, then the child could be returned IF YOU COMPLETE THE SERVICES.

The thing is this it’s possible to get D returned if u and W complete the services together. Like I stated earlier it’s usually Parenting Classes, Drug assessment, Psychiatric and Neurology Evaluation, Anger Management, Family Violence, Individual Counseling, and Marital Counseling.

This is going to take a lot of work dude. Before you talk to cps I recommend talking to a lawyer. See what your options are.