Katie, the first and most important fix to put in place is to not allow your feelings to drive what you do. This will never yield a good result for you. You must think through what you will do. And so much of what is RIGHT to do will be counter-intuitive.
So who cares what your H tells others? He does not call all of the shots. Right now what we are going to focus on is what is good for Katie. Decide on one thing you will do just for you tomorrow. Then do it. Also, do not take any calls from H. Do not answer texts or email. It will be a H-holiday.
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