I'm beginning to see my w's situation more and more clearly. not only is she taking off in august but she has some utterly bizarre notion that I'm going to steal the girls.

I'm pretty sure her new guy is in NM and he's feeding her a line of b.s., preying on her vulnerability. And there's nothing I can do about it. It occurred to me that I'm going to have to suck up my pride and build a solid foundation for when this all goes to hell on her. No one will be there for here when her dreams crash down and she's stuck far from her family and friends.

No more ultimatums or pettiness. She has to trust in me, that I can help when no one else will. Not to swoop in and steal her back, but because I (dammit) care and want her safe.

I don't have that skill, to create that trust...

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)