Thanks Puppy, you're absolutely right and I'm getting better at that. Thanks for the advice about not paying for things that support the affair.

And I totally agree, DaddyLongShanks, that I agree that I need to "affair burst" somehow before I can work on anything else. I am finding that advice in books too, as well as from learning the hard way.

I'd still love to read up on successful cases that are similar to mine with a wife that had an affair if anybody can refer me to some threads. Thanks in advance.


My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.