Puppy, I thought the affair was ended in early March because I confronted her several times. She told me she would stop talking to him and the internet chat did stop and she removed him from Facebook. I thought we were on the road to recovery, and then out of the blue last weekend, the texting started up. I am having a very difficult time thinking about even going to an attorney because I feel like I am throwing in the towel. I know I should for my own interests, but I just can't right now because I love my wife and family so much I will put every bit of effort I have in saving my marriage. I have such a deep love for this woman I can't give up and my family is the single most important thing to me.
Going to see a good family law attorney -- preferably one who specializes in "men's rights" and paternal custody and such -- has absolutely NOTHING TO DO with whether or not you love your wife, or are "throwing in the towel," Ken. It's simply good common sense to protect yourself, when you yourself said your wife has been threatening to make sure you don't get to see your kids.
There are laws in place to protect you. I strongly suggest you learn more about your rights and responsibilities. Do NOT tell your wife you are doing this; just go get an initial consultation (most are free).