I concur, word-for-word, with Gypsy. and sometimes it's one of those things that sucks so bad it takes your breath away until you somehow, amazingly, get used to it. Resilience. wow.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012