My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[WhatNow]

It's just as likely that she's having trouble making up her mind simply because she doesn't HAVE to, and that she perceives herself to have the best of both worlds.

Puppy

That about sums up my sitch pretty well. This last few days has been an abbreviated version or repetition of my whole dilemma since last July.

1) I confront her with a boundary.
2) She responds by running to the OM.
3) She comes back and acts like nothing happened and yet refuses to end her contact with the OM.

What can I say or do?

4) Enforce the boundary.

Ken,
you may intend the above, but here is what I perceive you have been doing:

1)You confront, pursue and throw a hissy fit.
2)She runs to OM.
3)When she returns, You confront, pursue, and throw a hissy fit, justifying for her a return to OM.

You must follow through. We are here for you.