I don't know if I want to stay married at this point. I'm thinking it through and thinking that I just don't see any redeeming qualities in my H any more.
Help, I need someone to talk me off the edge... they CAN come back around to being wonderful one day, right? I am pretty sure he was a fun, romantic, loving man at one point... it's just so distant, I can barely remember if it's truly what I saw back then or not.
All I remember right now is: Lies, cheating, sneaking around, using me for money and babysitting, taking advantage of me and kids/family, not caring at all for us, narcissism, spreading rumors, plotting against his wife, abandoning us in our most time of need (I know he needs right now also... but really, the kids are going through very tough times right now especially), being infantile in the ways of money, running a house, not taking responsibility for anything, blaming others, putting his needs first, wanting/needing TOYS to the detriment of the family budget, not saying no to anything anyone wants (including me, I'm not innocent here - sometimes I want to eat out when I know I should stay home), not taking the lead in the family, no strength.
I know there is some good. If you had asked me 7-12 years ago, I would not have been able to come up with one bad thing about him, 5 years ago, it was 90% good, now it's 10% good, and that's a real reach for me to remember.
Now I understand why divorces can get so bitter between people who supposedly loved each other at one time.
